I like having constant things in my life.
Constant people
Constant activities
Constant music
Just something that stays the same. I know I say I hate repetition or having a schedule. I usually do. But I like to know someone or something is always there. Spontaneity may be the spice of life, and to most people, normalcy is bland and boring, but I need a little blandness in my figurative diet.
Now thats a funny analogy.
Spontaneity is spice,
Love is sweet,
Normalcy is bland
Excitement is hot
Fear is cold
Happiness is a perfectly balanced mixture of all these tastes.
I need to stop being an introspective little freak. Peace!
LOVE love love, in all the forms of the word,
hanhan
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
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Things I will never tell my children:
They're an embarrassment.
They're useless.
Its all their fault
You owe me.
You could stand to work out a little more
Did anyone teach you how to match clothing?
Your makeup makes you look like a hooker
Do not depend on other people. Do everything yourself.
You're a failure.
You're pathetic.
I will never say any of this to my kids. I would never be that un-supportive.
I will tell them, I love them, they're beautiful, and amazing. I will not accept bad from them, but will actually raise them to expect to do well. I will teach them passion for life and trust. I will teach them love and not try to rip them down when they do something wrong.
They're an embarrassment.
They're useless.
Its all their fault
You owe me.
You could stand to work out a little more
Did anyone teach you how to match clothing?
Your makeup makes you look like a hooker
Do not depend on other people. Do everything yourself.
You're a failure.
You're pathetic.
I will never say any of this to my kids. I would never be that un-supportive.
I will tell them, I love them, they're beautiful, and amazing. I will not accept bad from them, but will actually raise them to expect to do well. I will teach them passion for life and trust. I will teach them love and not try to rip them down when they do something wrong.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
meh
DEAR EVERYONE. I'm sorry I like abandon my poor blog all the time. I wrote you a post! its up in my room, so I'll put it up tomorrow. In the meantime, I wrote this for my other blog thing. So enjoy it peeps :]
\You know what I hate? I hate feminists. Those women who are like, blahblahblah WOMEN CHOICE I WEAR THE PANTS blehblehbleh. Its like they're trying to change who they are. Its ANNOYING.
I'm not saying being submissive is good. I'm not saying men should always be in power. I'd LOVE a female president, if she stood for the right things. The problem with feminists is, they don't realize how much power they could have if they stopped trying to be men for two seconds.
I'm a girly girl. Like, its a proven fact. I have other friends who are less girly, but just as feminine. Its beautiful to embrace everything that makes you a female. Okay, we aren't as strong as men. We aren't BUILT to be. We aren't as dominant, we aren't made to be. But we have so much more power. We can convince people to do things our way better, make ourselves heard better(not by yelling, but by getting the point across) and even if we do that by using our feminine wiles, what of it? Why else would we have them, these skills we're born with, these little things that make men want to protect us and hold us and buy us sparkly pretty things?
I love being a woman, without trying to tell the whole world about my rights and how I deserve this and that because I'm FEMALE. I don't have to say all that stuff, I can communicate it with the way I dress, with the way I look, with the way I walk into a room and treat the people in there. I know that I can get people to do what I want most of the time, better than any man could.
So why bash it and fight it? Accept yourself as a girl, enjoy the things that make you different from men. Show you respect yourself, showy you're confidant, show you need things to be done and you're capable of doing them, BUT STOP TRYING TO SHOVE YOUR FEMINISM DOWN MY THROAT. GOOD BYE.
love from hanhan :]
\You know what I hate? I hate feminists. Those women who are like, blahblahblah WOMEN CHOICE I WEAR THE PANTS blehblehbleh. Its like they're trying to change who they are. Its ANNOYING.
I'm not saying being submissive is good. I'm not saying men should always be in power. I'd LOVE a female president, if she stood for the right things. The problem with feminists is, they don't realize how much power they could have if they stopped trying to be men for two seconds.
I'm a girly girl. Like, its a proven fact. I have other friends who are less girly, but just as feminine. Its beautiful to embrace everything that makes you a female. Okay, we aren't as strong as men. We aren't BUILT to be. We aren't as dominant, we aren't made to be. But we have so much more power. We can convince people to do things our way better, make ourselves heard better(not by yelling, but by getting the point across) and even if we do that by using our feminine wiles, what of it? Why else would we have them, these skills we're born with, these little things that make men want to protect us and hold us and buy us sparkly pretty things?
I love being a woman, without trying to tell the whole world about my rights and how I deserve this and that because I'm FEMALE. I don't have to say all that stuff, I can communicate it with the way I dress, with the way I look, with the way I walk into a room and treat the people in there. I know that I can get people to do what I want most of the time, better than any man could.
So why bash it and fight it? Accept yourself as a girl, enjoy the things that make you different from men. Show you respect yourself, showy you're confidant, show you need things to be done and you're capable of doing them, BUT STOP TRYING TO SHOVE YOUR FEMINISM DOWN MY THROAT. GOOD BYE.
love from hanhan :]
Friday, January 14, 2011
out of bad comes good.
There comes a point in your life where I feel that people should realize the world doesn't revolve around them. That ots not crazy for someone to move on, and not talk about them all the time. There comes a point where people should realize that making a big deal about every little thing is not only unhealthy, but just ridiculous.
Think about it.
In the mass scheme of things you're like a tiny little speck. Barely. Realize that and accept that. Maybe the difference you could make for the better would make you less than a speck.
Love from hanhan <3
Think about it.
In the mass scheme of things you're like a tiny little speck. Barely. Realize that and accept that. Maybe the difference you could make for the better would make you less than a speck.
Love from hanhan <3
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Look, through it all.
See? I'm smiling.
This year has been a long and learning one. Its been an adventure, its been a teary mess, its been a crash course in life and love. I've laughed more than I've cried, and realized I hated frowning because why bother? I learned how to say no, and how to no be afraid of just trying things to see what happens. I've learned how to take care of myself, and my friends, and how to see who really is my friend. I adventured through uncharted territory, and became who I am, and I've learned to like her to an extent, and be comfortable with her.
I know that over the past few months, last year has been a recurring theme. Its been like a fascination of mine lately, since this isn't where I saw myself ever being. I used to be afraid to smile, to cut my hair. I used to be afraid to think too much, to say no, to do something not generally accepted by everyone, but I'm NOT anymore. I don't have to have a huge overwhelming amount of approval from a panel of 12 different friends to make decisions anymore. I've done a lot of growing up this year.
This day, last year, someone changed my life, for the worse they thought, but in reality, it was for the better. So, this is my public and formal thank you to him for everything he's led me too, whether he knew that he started this change in me or not. Because of it, I'm happy. Thank you. This year, I'd like to teach myself my life lessons though, if you don't mind.
Okay, bye.
LOVE from hanhan :D
(PS, see, I'm smiling still!)
This year has been a long and learning one. Its been an adventure, its been a teary mess, its been a crash course in life and love. I've laughed more than I've cried, and realized I hated frowning because why bother? I learned how to say no, and how to no be afraid of just trying things to see what happens. I've learned how to take care of myself, and my friends, and how to see who really is my friend. I adventured through uncharted territory, and became who I am, and I've learned to like her to an extent, and be comfortable with her.
I know that over the past few months, last year has been a recurring theme. Its been like a fascination of mine lately, since this isn't where I saw myself ever being. I used to be afraid to smile, to cut my hair. I used to be afraid to think too much, to say no, to do something not generally accepted by everyone, but I'm NOT anymore. I don't have to have a huge overwhelming amount of approval from a panel of 12 different friends to make decisions anymore. I've done a lot of growing up this year.
This day, last year, someone changed my life, for the worse they thought, but in reality, it was for the better. So, this is my public and formal thank you to him for everything he's led me too, whether he knew that he started this change in me or not. Because of it, I'm happy. Thank you. This year, I'd like to teach myself my life lessons though, if you don't mind.
Okay, bye.
LOVE from hanhan :D
(PS, see, I'm smiling still!)
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Found this on tumblr...kind of want to do it....
Day 7 — Your Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/love/crush
Day 8 — Your favorite internet friend
Day 9 — Someone you wish you could meet
Day 10 — Someone you don’t talk to as much as you’d like to
Day 11 — A Deceased person you wish you could talk to
Day 12 — The person you hate most/caused you a lot of pain
Day 13 — Someone you wish could forgive you
Day 14 — Someone you’ve drifted away from
Day 15 — The person you miss the most
Day 16 — Someone that’s not in your state/country
Day 17 — Someone from your childhood
Day 18 — The person that you wish you could be
Day 19 — Someone that pesters your mind—good or bad
Day 20 — The one that broke your heart the hardest
Day 21 — Someone you judged by their first impression
Day 22 — Someone you want to give a second chance to
Day 23 — The last person you kissed
Day 24 — The person that gave you your favorite memory
Day 25 — The person you know that is going through the worst of times
Day 26 — The last person you made a pinky promise to
Day 27 — The friendliest person you knew for only one day
Day 28 — Someone that changed your life
Day 29 — The person that you want tell everything
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
A note on the effects of reinforcment
Reinforcement is where a certain stimulis or event happens because of an action or word. There's positive and negative reinforcement, and both are used when training, or modifying behavior.
I'm probably going to offend someone but I thought it was really funny so here goes!
THE EFFECTS OF REINFORCEMENT ON THE MALE SPECIES, AND A GUIDE FOR USING THESE TOOLS FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.
Now sometimes when things are new, and when things seem to be going a little off course, you can use these behavior modification techniques on your sweetie to make everything smooth and fun!
Reinforcement is actually a much more reliable technique, unless your honey is a little bit slow... but give it a try, sometimes repetition gets the point across! You get a nickname that he thinks is sweet and you don't like, train it right out of him without being rude. Whenever he uses it, simply don't respond normally. Or ignore the sweetness. Then if he calls you something you DO happen to think is cute, then your response should be a positive one, with a reward of some type(small, a big smile, a return of some sweet name, you know)
You can also use reinforcement when it comes to hand holding, snuggling, kissing, conversation topics, Its a pretty simple concept, and pretty effective! Keep it small and see how that goes.
Okay, that was funnier in my head. I need to not do psychology anymore. Goodbye.
love from hanhan ;]
I'm probably going to offend someone but I thought it was really funny so here goes!
THE EFFECTS OF REINFORCEMENT ON THE MALE SPECIES, AND A GUIDE FOR USING THESE TOOLS FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.
Now sometimes when things are new, and when things seem to be going a little off course, you can use these behavior modification techniques on your sweetie to make everything smooth and fun!
Reinforcement is actually a much more reliable technique, unless your honey is a little bit slow... but give it a try, sometimes repetition gets the point across! You get a nickname that he thinks is sweet and you don't like, train it right out of him without being rude. Whenever he uses it, simply don't respond normally. Or ignore the sweetness. Then if he calls you something you DO happen to think is cute, then your response should be a positive one, with a reward of some type(small, a big smile, a return of some sweet name, you know)
You can also use reinforcement when it comes to hand holding, snuggling, kissing, conversation topics, Its a pretty simple concept, and pretty effective! Keep it small and see how that goes.
Okay, that was funnier in my head. I need to not do psychology anymore. Goodbye.
love from hanhan ;]
Monday, January 3, 2011
loveydoveyhuikjaf j.,
Love is four letters long in the writing, and a life time in the defining.
Love, noun. loved, lov-ing.
Does love mean being willing to take a bullet for the other person? and would you know that (if that was the meaning) you'd be able to do that if you weren't ever put in the situation? Or is love something that should be extended to all people simply because they're human and everyone should be loved in some way? I know there are different types and degrees of love, but how do you express them? I throw the word love around a lot with my friends, I tell them I love them (I do), but I guess the way that you throw the word around effects the meaning, the more you say it the less it means. I really do love the people I say I love, I really do love everyone, even people I don't like, as silly as it sounds.
Love, noun. loved, lov-ing.
1. 1a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
There are actually seven definitions in the dictionary I was using, but none of these seem to define the little word that apparently means everything to some people, and nothing to others.
Does love mean being willing to take a bullet for the other person? and would you know that (if that was the meaning) you'd be able to do that if you weren't ever put in the situation? Or is love something that should be extended to all people simply because they're human and everyone should be loved in some way? I know there are different types and degrees of love, but how do you express them? I throw the word love around a lot with my friends, I tell them I love them (I do), but I guess the way that you throw the word around effects the meaning, the more you say it the less it means. I really do love the people I say I love, I really do love everyone, even people I don't like, as silly as it sounds.
Maybe, when we say love, sometimes we mean other things. We just use the word love because it encompasses:
Respect
Admiration
Liking
Being made happy by something/someone
Desiring
Tenderness
Passion
and a bunch more.
Anyone else have any thoughts?
LOVE from hanhan :]
PS. Love is the four letter word that actually makes things better :3
PPS. I'm listening to french radio. What is my life?
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